Over the years, “stress” has inevitably become a part of everyday life for many people. Personally, “stress” had historically affected my health. Indirectly, however, it had also influenced how my partner and I had managed to maintain our relationship with the tension of stressful life events. I use the word ‘stress’ in quotes because it manifests in many forms including pressures from / school, family, personal beliefs / persecution, medical issues, and financial concerns, such as important illustrations. These stressors affect many people around the world – and it is up to each of us to decide how to counteract the effects that stress can cause. For people in a relationship, stress can be a major source of conflict if it is not confronted / managed in an appropriate way.
I have struggled for years to find a routine and / or ways to relieve the tension. Personally, my husband had to endure all of my schooling (2 Masters and a Doctorate) and the resulting medical problems – mainly caused by my stress. My husband, on the other hand, had other stressors that affected him negatively as well. Together we had to compromise, plan and support each other as much as possible. Without these elements, our relationship would not have been so successful. Exercise, communication and surrounding myself with friends / family have been the ways in which I have effectively dealt with “stress”. Sometimes I also continue to meet my longtime couple, Ben & Jerry, for immediate, but temporary, stress relief.
As far as relationships are concerned, I stress the importance of communication. No one but you understands your situation. This relates to the frequently pronounced saying “Walk a mile in another person’s shoes,” especially before another person’s life situation is judged. In a relationship, if you are not open and honest with each other and the communication aspect is non-existent, how can a relationship exist or persist in a healthy way? Stress can be positive and negative as it motivates us, motivates us, and can make us successful in our chosen endeavors. Therefore, be careful not to let stress consume you to the point of negatively impacting your ability to go about your daily business, harming your health, or causing conflict in your relationships with yourself / others. and / or your job / career.
There was a time when lack of communication was a concern early in our relationship. My career has focused on psychology and education while his has been focused on business. Now that the lines of communication are open, we are able to problem solve, conceptualize alternatives / plans, and be compassionate with the feelings / emotions of others – as a TEAM. It is important in our relationship that we talk about the good, the bad and the ugly – to put everything on the table so that we can understand each other and maybe even help with some issues / concerns. Family walks also helped relieve stress as well as our thirty-minute “wrap-up sessions” at the end of the workday. Either way, I still plan for thirty minutes a day of pure “me” – NO work, NO stress. A weekend day is all about the family – again, NO work. It’s true what they say… life is short. Surround yourself with love, laughter, and support. You need to discover a coping strategy that works for you and your partner.
Long ago, I didn’t realize how much stress affected me. For almost a decade, juggling my studies and my employment in various companies was the main source of stress for me. Thinking back to emergency room visits, headaches, illnesses, arguments with my husband and episodes of insomnia, I did not plan enough “me” time and did not adopt coping strategies. effective. Now I have become an expert in my own stress management adaptation. I advise each of you to be aware of your life situation and not to let stress consume you as a person. There is always time for “you”, time to engage in activities that appeal to you, and time to surround yourself with others to brighten up your day. You have the power to change things in your life that may be less than desirable. Prioritize, plan and communicate. In a relationship, teamwork is essential and imperative. Find solace in each other and don’t be afraid to have quality “you” time.
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